It's Ok Haylee

At dinner two nights ago, Haylee wanted another biscuit. Dave had told her yes but she had to eat her green beans first. She really likes green beans, so we didn't think this was a problem. As the plate of buscuits diminished into Dave's mouth, she was really started to stress that there would not be one left. So she snagged the last one and started munching. I saw her and said, Haylee, why don't you eat your green beans first. (Usually if they eat their first servings, they are not hungry for seconds even if they think they will be.) Anyway, she puts it down and starts eatings. Well, Dave hadn't noticed her eating the buscuit, so then he starts asking her why she started eating it when he told her to wait. She instantly starts crying because she hates to get in trouble. And Dave proceeds to go through our normal conversation when they disobey and they start discussing what will be her punishment. Meanwhile, we are all watching the deliberation. Haylee is still bawling. To get her to calm down, Dave says, Haylee you are not in trouble, but we have to be responsible for our actions. I am not mad at you, but you still need to come up with a punishment because you made a wrong choice. Well Trent jumps in now with all the sincerity and knowledge and says... lol... Haylee, don't worry Dad still loves you.

There it is, at least Trent is learning something from his numerous punishments. We always after they get in trouble, call them back to us to discuss what happened and why and why it was wrong. But we NEVER forget to tell them how much we still love them. At least Trent is learning that most important lesson which is all that really matters.